Rainy day (what to wear)

So welcome to the rainy season in Vietnam, starting from June to Sep. I actually don’t like traveling around Ho Chi Minh city in this season because of high possibility of getting stuck in the floods caused by monsoon rains. Anyway, let’s not talk about that lousy transportation infrastructure here, let’s move on the more romantic: fashion, and what to wear in such weather. I suppose that the status of weather is actually a very fun thing to play around when it comes to fashion. I woke up and had my brain work on what to wear while still rolling in the blanket. Thinking of an OOTD is comfy itself, not to mention being lazy and so cozy in my bed, especially in the bad weather days.

The other day it was drizzling, I felt that was perfect to put on this vivid color piece of yellow T-shirt from F21. Wanted to brighten up my day a little bit more, I grabbed my pastel pink cross-body bag bought from last Thailand trip. The weather also supported me to wear these not-used-for-a-long-time black boots. A pair of basic black jeans. And here it is. I love this look, but don’t really like my frizzy hair caused by the drizzle haha.

Cherry

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A real boyfriend

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Hi girls,

In my last post, I’ve shared some of my opinions about love criteria.  Today, I’d like to narrow it down to how a true boyfriend would look like when in love with you.

You know, love is a heart thing. If things don’t come from heart then it’s not love. A true boyfriend should love you by his heart. Otherwise, you guys are just wasting time.

As I say, a true boyfriend is whole-hearted. He’s honest and he does everything for you by heart (yes, I would keep repeating “heart” 100 times). If he knows that you are craving for a piece of tiramisu cake while it’s raining like dog and cat, nothing could stop his way to you with a box of cake on his hand. Since you know, he has his heart attached to you, lady.

A true boyfriend cares about you, even you very materialistic demands. As I just said, he may just care what you eat today, what time you go to bed, what are your favorite foods. Because, above all that, he does care about you with his HEART.

A true boyfriend should “feel” you. I mean he should knows all about you, even the badness. He doesn’t criticize, he will just simply laugh at it and plan to help you improve yourself.

A true boyfriend should want to make you happy. All the time. This sticks in his mind. Your being upset can hurt him. And a true boyfriend has thousands of nonsense stories just to cheer you up. He’s also likely to pull off the nonsense person inside you so that both of you could laugh about everything together.

A true boyfriend should love spending time with you. No doubt. If he doesn’t, you guys are just not the right people for each other. Spending time with you to him doesn’t need to be “doing something”, just simply lean over to each other, feel the hear-beat (did I go too far? haha), listen to music, read books, share some random thoughts, just softly and silently like that.

A true boyfriend would care about those who you love. He knows that making them happy is making you happy, he doesn’t mind going some extra miles just to see your smiles.

I’ve made some of my points here while hoping that I myself can meet some sort of true boyfriend one day :). What’s your opinion on this?

Love,

Cherry

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Prejudice

I heard that in the Bible, there is a line to the effect that if we want to reach Heaven, our souls should be like children’s ones.

A child’s soul. Innocent and carefree.

In fact, a lot of us just cannot have our souls that purified. We have so much judgement and prejudice deep within… We see people and the world through filters of prejudices. Our brains keep working constantly to label those prejudices on someone or something we met. Most of us would be proud that those labels should be right, just as how it was right… And never think twice… We don’t know that we have been so wrong. Things change, people do change, the whole universe change. Even a cell, the cell of the one minute later is one totally different from the one of the previous minute… Since the elements inside it do move which caused changes! Not to mention a whole human, a whole city, country or a whole race. Why must we need to label, then treating each others unfairly…? Labeling someone bad, we treat them badly. Labeling someone good, we give them love, respect and preference. For case 1, how many of us have done a poor judgement on people and regretted afterwards…? And have anyone realized that labeling don’t work all the time…? For case 2, have we ever treated someone so well that later on we realized they just don’t deserve any bit of our love, our respect? Prejudice is always dangerous. It does hurt ourselves and other people.

Lately I’ve tried my best to stay away from personal judgement and often take note to myself that being biased can just make us partially blind. However, unfortunately, prejudice is always way easier than a thorough investigation and compassion practice. Since it’s just right there to grab.

OK, too much of the headache things already, just want to share with you guys some photo-shoot throwback made in 2014, when I was still young and pretty and silly. Hehe. I guess next post I’m writing about traveling instead…

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Date The Girl That Drives You Crazy

This post is beautiful. I couldn’t agree more.

“Unless it’s mad, passionate, extraordinary love, it’s a waste of time. There are too many mediocre things in life. Love should not be one of them.” — Unknown

Just like the author, I will also freaking squeeze whoever came up with that line tooooooo.

Yesssssss. Date someone who you get crazy about. Love can’t be monotonous, can’t be plain, can’t be neutral. Let’s fight, let’s get annoyed, let’s laugh, let’s understand, let’s be compassionate. Life has so much crap, we don’t need a crappy love quality.

Read the following post I re blogged from Thought Catalog and tell me what you think!

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There’s an old quote that I completely love:

“Unless it’s mad, passionate, extraordinary love, it’s a waste of time. There are too many mediocre things in life. Love should not be one of them.”

— Unknown

Yes. Yessss. I want to take whoever came up with that line and just freaking squeeze them. They understand. They get it. They know that life’s too dang short and we can’t settle for love that doesn’t make us feel something.

Love shouldn’t be mediocre.

It shouldn’t be boring, shouldn’t be blah, shouldn’t be monotonous, or going through the motions. Hell, love shouldn’t be easy. And I’ll stand by that.

Sure, falling in love should be easy. You fall for their smile, for their looks, for their touch, for the way their presence makes your heart literally bounce around in your chest.

But actual love is hard. It’s about choosing someone, day after day after day.

Choosing them, even through their b.s. and tears and full-blown screaming matches and random annoying things they do. Choosing them because no matter how angry you get, you literally cannot live without them in your life.

Love’s not supposed to be easy. It’s supposed to be about caring for someone, so much so, that you willingly fight through hell, together, so that you can always find your way back into each other’s arms.

That’s why I firmly believe that out of all the people in the world, you should date the girl that drives you crazy. Date the girl that makes you feel something.

The one whose yell makes you want to rip your hair out, whose tears make your stomach tie itself in knots. The one who makes you so physically mad you want to scream.

But also the one whose smile cannot help bring out yours, whose laugh brightens even your most bitter of days, whose touch sends electric shocks from your brain to your knees to your toes.

Love isn’t supposed to be about finding someone who fits perfectly with you, who calms and compliments you in every puzzle-piece, cookie-cutter type of way.

No. Love is meant to be two completely independent people somehow finding a way to mesh into one another’s lives. It’s supposed to be confusing and difficult. It’s supposed to be messy. It’s supposed to be real.

And it’s supposed to drive you completely crazy.

So crazy that you keep chasing after it, keep falling back into it, keep desiring the way your heart skips and your hands sweat and your mind spins after every kiss.

Don’t date the girl that’s one-dimensional and stoic. Don’t date the girl that says everything she’s supposed to, never fights with you, and always stands by your side quiet and unoriginal and boring. Don’t date the girl that doesn’t make your heart go absolutely nuts.

Because that’s not real love, and it won’t last.

Fall for the girl that drives you crazy.
Because I promise, she’s just as crazy about you.

via Date The Girl That Drives You Crazy — Thought Catalog

Healthy living

I have started living slowlier for a few months so far. Particularly, I quit work and working as a freelancer now, working on literally WHATEVER I LIKE, leisurely, and of course, I do blogging. Since then, I’ve got more time to read books, research on the subjects that I was dying to know, pay attentions to family members, friends, relationship as well as support them whenever they need my help, and last but not least, I’ve got some time to THINK. Consequently, the world seems slowlier than ever. We “sip” each other bit by bit. And these sips cannot be more interesting. I see the world, I see myself, to some certain level, which was hard to see when I was working my ass off at the office and come home damn late just to get the rest of the day done and to start another nasty morning hating getting back to work. Now I enjoy getting around Ho Chi Minh City on a bus or Uber/Grab taxi, seeing things on the road side with my eyes wide-open and having no fear of bike accidents, my mind is much free to wander, reckon. (I really wish that public transportation will soon be more popularly used in Vietnam, currently, lots of people stick to personal vehicle.) I’ve also got to walk more, and I do enjoy walking between to bus stations. I never know walking could be this comfy and regret that I took too long to realize bus is a very good option to travel around Sai Gon. Getting by  bus may cause some passivity and take a bit longer time, however, I don’t really mind, since I am the Queen of Time right now. OK I was far away from the healthy living topic. Thanks to the slow living, I have my brain “rested while working”, meaning letting it heading to a deeper level of everything (working-without rushing too much while seeing just the surface of problems like it did before), meanwhile it takes more time to rest thanks to our slowly lifestyle, I’ve actually felt so relaxed. And stress equals almost zero. Bye bye to stress and nightmares. We all know how stress is harmful to our physical body as well as our mind right? Accept it or not, we only need a happy life at the end of the day. Don’t believe that we just need to be happy, not rich or well-recognized or high social position? Watch this TED talk here about a longest study on happiness, at the old age, people don’t find that fame, hardworking-ness or wealth important, it’s happiness which needs to be considered as a top life goal. And the talk also reveals how to achieve happiness and healthier status (transcript here).

Do you want to slow down to achieve happier and healthier life?

Cherry

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